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Paranormal and Supernatural => Paranormal Portal => Topic started by: violet on March 16, 2007, 01:44:36 PM
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I've been desperate to ask but felt uncertain about imposing... I would really appreciate your generosity if you can tell me whether you see a baby for me and when. My husband and I have been trying for five or six months.
Fingers (but not legs) crossed...
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i cant tell you anything pyschicly but i can tell you to relax. After 5 or 6 monthsyou should still be enjoying trying and not getting desperate. I have been trying for 7 years and the biggest piece of advice i could give anyone is to relax and dont think too much about it.
Scientificly most woman concieve at about 12 months so relax and enjoy yourself.
I hope you have some luck soon.
jo
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Hi Violet,
when I first read this post earlier in the week I got the message 2 years. I am not sure if that means you will be pregnant in that time or have a baby in that time though.
As soon as you relax and the pressure comes off (or you forget you are trying) it tends to happen.
Christine
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Thanks zacklola and Christine :)
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Nice avatar Violet. So cute!
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Thanks Christine. It's my beautiful Dushka. I'll love him all my life.
And your angel's back image is stunning.
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I think on 'average' (and I use that term loosely) it takes about a year of TTC. Were you on contraception??
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Yes Anahera I was (the mini pill) but I stopped at least a year before we started trying.
A friend told me when you first go off the pill your fertility spikes, so often people conceive quickly when they first start. Maybe this is what happened with all our friends! We feel like underachievers 'cause all our friends got pregnant first go.
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Stop worrying and even thinking about it, the reason you aren't pregnant yet is because it is not the time, everything has a time and we cannot push it, for to do so would be making the path harder, just go about your life and make no allowances for the fact one day you will have children, and it will happen in its time, whether this is by natural causes or by medical intervention, it makes no difference when the time is right, it will all just flow so nicely.
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Have you tried www.fertilityfriend.com ? You can chart your menstrual cycle daily and record when and when you ovulate. It might be that you ovulate at different times.
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I never realized how hard getting pregnant can be for some people until I started posting on these paranormal boards. All my pregnancies have occured while I was on some sort of birth control. My problem was always the opposite. Constant worry about getting pregnant.
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Violet, everytime i read the title of this post my mind reads "Is there a baby for me....or not?
I'm asking myself why this is and am hoping that it's not a sign that the answer to your question is no.
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sorry, meant to post in the other baby question thread.
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while you are waiting for your body to do what it is going to do, why not turn the romance up and concentrate on enjoying sex, not worrying about getting pregnant. Its the journey, not the destination (it is the destination, but if you have fun on the way the blinding desire for result fades).
get your grrrrrroove on!
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how are you doing Violet?
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I've decided I'm conceiving a baby very soon. I'm being a clearing for love, welbeing and new life. It's made a big difference to my state of mind.
So thanks everyone for your advice, and for asking how I'm going Anahera.
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Keep us filled in Violet!
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Violet Honey I have been in your position when we were trying for our 1st child.
Relax I know that it is hard, and it becomes a mission and a half, my sisters just had to look at their partners and were pregnant, but not me! we had so much sex trying for that baby, I reckon that my body felt sorry for me!! I remind my husband now about the jellybean rule!!!
You will become pregnant I feel soon, you have an issue that I feel is holding this process up. Alot of healers believe that infertility can be a result of inner conflict.
Be strong and know that you will have the pitter patter of feet in your life.
Hugs Scaredy
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Hi Violet,
you mentioned that when you go off the pill you get a spike in fertility. I think this is true for estrogen pills but I think the mini pill is progesterone only, so you may have missed this spike in fertility. :)
I hope a baby comes to you soon. i know it is easy to say just enjoy the journey (because when you know you are ready you want it right away!).
I am another one that gets pregnant at the drop of a hat, so I can't really know what it is like to wait. It was bad enough with my first a took a test when my period was late then was so dissapointed when it was negative. I remember thinking how would I cope month after month.
My only advice is listen to your body. I know when I am ovulating by my mood. lol
Anyway once you are pregnant you realize you mind is just along for the ride and your body is really the one in control.
Good luck Violet!
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...babies vomit a lot
[I rule soo bad]
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......and poo a lot, and cry, and wake in the middle of the night,and make a lot of washing
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..and are the most treasured, loving, and rewarding thing a human can ever enjoy - the love, respect, and earnt trust of a child.
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My babies redefined the meaning of love for me.
Sleep deprivation IS torture though!
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It gets better....
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It does but I am sure teeting lasts till their 20's!
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and so does sleep derivation..lol..
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Apparently omega 3 is important after giving birth...I was watching Oprah with some doctor on there, and he was saying that after pregnancy and birth, the brain of the mum has been striped of omega 3's, thus paving the way for "post natal depression"...so eat plenty of fish, red salmon etc...and rest when ever you can, is so important.
I love Oprah, I learn something every time!!
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...and then, they grow up!!!
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Apparently boy's never grow up... :P
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lol
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It is amazing what the human body can do and the shapes that it can extend too, Violet honey you will be ok, and these things do happen when the time is right as cliche as that must sound!
I remember with all my babies trying to get pregnant and when I get the + test thinking "oh crap what have I done". I tell you when you get that positive test you feel like the first person to ever get pregnant! you feel so happy.
Scaredy
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Scaredy, you're right, I have some fear of giving my life up to someone else. But I am dedicated to working out this fear. And sometimes I just soar thinking of being a part of my babies' lives.
Being strong is perfect advice, thank you and I love all the other comments that are so warm (even the crying and vomit ones)... lucky babies that are in your lives.
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Violet, try not to look at it as "giving your life up for someone else"...
...see it as *sharing your life with a part of yourself*
Having children is like soaring, but like with any smooth flying, you always have patches of turbulence...but the smooth air is not ever far away.
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I think I kind of know what you mean Violet... (maybe lol)... having a child is a huge commitment and I worry that I will be a bad mother (like my mother). I don't want my children to ever feel the way I have and do sometimes - this is what scares me the most - hence why I didn't want to have children for so long - and now I'm so clucky I have sarted to grow feathers.
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Apparently boy's never grow up... :P
That explains why Tool is still vomiting those baby turtles
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Lol Anahera, maybe eventually we will be able to fly. Hope we dodge any beaks though.
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Anahara, the fact you realize that your mother was not the kind of mother that is classed as good means you are aware of what is a good mother, you will have no problem at all you are already a good mum.
Violet, you also will be a good Mum, it shows in that you concerned with how you will handle it, this means that you will think things through before making a decision in your child's life and if we all did this we would at least have given it our best.
On this note of children and babies, although it is a beautiful thing to have kids it is also not the be all to end all, some people are just not cut out to have kids and this is not a bad thing not everyone needs to have children, it is fine to go through life without them.
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No baby this cycle. My intuition tells me my husband and I will have a baby of our own sometime soon but I am still so devastated and anxious each month when I'm not pregnant. Argh. Any insight would be helpful.
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Have you tried fertility friend??
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/index.php
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Thanks Anahera, I have signed up with Fertility Friend and am doing the tutorials.
I think there's a baby coming but I will have to wait and be at peace with waiting.
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I think there's a baby coming but I will have to wait and be at peace with waiting.
That is the most important thing Violet,I tried and tried and with much heartache, but when i relaxed and stopped thinking about it(which you know is SSSOOOOOO hard to do) I fell pregnant out of the Blue.. No I have a wonderful 10mth old boy..
I wish you all the luck in the world,and hope to see some pic's of your beautiful baby some day.
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An update.
Christine said in a one-card-reading chat session last year that "in March you will get the answer you're waiting for". I have a laparoscopy scheduled in late Feb (operation where they check fallopian tupes and uterus lining). I am quite afraid of having it.
Depending on the result of the surgery we will probably start with IVF.
If there is any message or insight anyone can give I would be so grateful.
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Just want to wish you all the very best and hope you can get some answers, and ultimately a positive result....goodluck..janine
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Hi Violet, often when I pass on such messages I have no idea what they entail. I hope everything goes well for you and they find some answers for you.
Christine
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Hi violet :)
I can also relate to your plight (though you would never know it, now I have 6 ;D).
Have you had the laparoscopy yet? I have also had a laparoscopy and wanted to let you know that it is minor keyhole surgery and is also quite painless! Do not worry and enjoy peeing blue for a day ;D
My problem was with the fact that I wasn't ovulating and was soon put on the fertility drug Clomid. This fixed the problem for me.
It did take me 5 years to figure all that out and you're doing it in considerable less time than I!
Also start taking iron and folic acid tablets (I used fefol - a slow release dose over the counter at the chemist.).
I also wanted to let you know that with each of my pregnancies I miscarried the first time around and a couple of months later it would take and I'd carry to full term. This is not an uncommon thing my dear so please don't panic. I think it's the way your body works out your true feelings for the little one inside you.
Best of luck with everything my dear and if you want to discuss it more please feel free to pm me.
Kindest Regards always
Merrick :)
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Merrick you are a truely lovely person!
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Thank you so much Merrick. You are so generous. I can feel your kindness! I might take you up on the offer of a PM sometime.
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she IS great, isn't she? such poise...
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Another update. We've visited a naturopath who worked some magic with a foul-tasting potion. It has helped me to rest and got my female energy moving again.
Now we are trying IUI. It's a procedure where my egg release is timed using hormone injections and at the perfect moment, the sperm is placed in my Fallopian tube ready to meet the egg.
I've become handy with a needle and just today I found out I'm responding rather exuberantly to the hormones. Oh, I SO hope this is the time!
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Good luck Violet!
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I have my fingers X'd Violet!
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everything crossed here for you violet...
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Good luck with the treatment Violet.
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Thinking of you Violet.
Remember to RELAX
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Good Luck Violet!
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Violet, what you are doing now is how we conceived our first son ;) Sending you many positive thoughts that this is the cycle for you and your husband.
Merrick, your post really hit a chord with me! I too have had miscarriages before each of the boys (3 now) and have only recently had another one. I hadn't thought of why it had happened in that way, but it seems so right. Sorry to hijack there Violet.
Any idea when the IUI will be? Just watch out for hyperstimulation, its not nice! Good luck!!!
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GOod to hear of your success Farfalla!
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The IUI is scheduled for tomorrow morning. All the vital energy you can send to me would be precious.
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you got it violet...and I will keep everything crossed for you...all the best
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Good luck Violet.
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Of course Violet :)
Good Luck
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Best wishes for tomorrow Violet
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ohh sending you stacks of positive thoughts Violet!! And also loads of sticky thoughts as well.
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someone as creative and kind as you violet should definately be populating the planet. Best of luck!
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good luck violet!
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My best wishes to you and yours Violet :)
Good luck for tomorrow - I'll be thinking of you :)
Cheers
Merrick :)
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good luck violet
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Thank you so much everyone. I feel your support.
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just think of us as a paranormal vitual internet based wireless truss.....
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not that a truss would do you any good .....
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I am very sad to say the IUI didn't work this time.
We have booked in to try again straight away. It seems like the only thing that helps to do.
For a day or so it seemed it had worked and I was pregnant and life transformed. Then today we got the test result. That time slip to the other side of this made me realise how much I want my baby. Peculiarly it also reassured me that my future is beautiful whether my husband and I must be without our child this life, or not. A bit like in another universe somewhere we three are together.
How can I call her to me? I want her so much.
Thanks for listening.
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I am thinking of you Violet.
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love and light Violet...*hugs*
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hugs violet..keep the faith...
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Oh Violet, I am sorry I didn't see this before getting your PM.
If it is any consolation at all, and I know it won't be however....I have a friend who was on IVF for 15 years. She eventually fell pregnant and now has a child. Another friend more recently had 3 rounds and now has a son. We will continue to hope for you the outcome you wish Violet.
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Sorry to hear that it didn't work Violet but I am confident that it will happen for you.
Stay strong and be positive. Sending you lots of light energy and may the spirit of the Great Earth Mother bestow her blessings upon you soon.
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Healing and light for you Violet.
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Sending you good luck for next time violet! You asked how you can call her to you... I don't know what your religious leanings are so I don't know if this will help or not but I didn't become pregnant until I bought a statue of Hekate into the house.
I bought the statue because I liked it and later realised that she is a Goddess of childbirth.
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I did something similar when I was having troubles. After much trying and drugs I bought the baby a soft toy and kept it on my bedroom dresser. I'm sure it was the intent that my baby would eventually receive it and being positive about the whole situation that turned it all around for me.
I'm sending all the positive vibes I can my darlin'!
Wishing you well
Merrick ;D
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Violet, are you coming to Walhalla with us in Sept?
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Thank you Gary, Julie, catseyes, lotsa, Christine, angelite, Alien, harvestmoon, Merrick and everyone who has read this thread and wished me well, for your kindness and wisdom. You bring tears to my eyes.
Christine, I would like to come to Walhalla. The complication is, my husband will have just started on a new aircraft, long story short, we won't be able to plan anything much in advance.
I could be a maybe in case someone has to drop out at the last minute?
Thank you again. I think I will take harvestmoon and Merrick's advice and create my baby's presence for myself with something like a statue or a toy. It feels like a rosy, centre-ing thing to do.
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I'm trully sorry for what you have had to experience violet. :( Biggest Hugs.
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If you think that you are happy now , wait until it does happen for you Violet ! Every day is a new experience . Cherish every moment ! !
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Thanks so much bixter and rags :)
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Violet, I am reading a book called "The Golden Bough a study in Magic and Religion". The first chapters discuss what different tribes have traditionally done to 'call in a baby'. See if you can get it from the library.
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i doubt (at the mo) that I will get there but would love to meet with another writer violet. never mind, if fate intends it, then it shall be. elsewise it shall not.
only tears of joy do I wish to bring anyone. so hopefully I give you a chuckle now and then :)
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I am sorry you have had such a terrible disappointment. :(
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Thanks Julie, great suggestion.
Gary, your posts do make me laugh, and you make being witty seem so easy! It is wonderful being around writing minds and in my world fairly rare so I hope we do meet up one day.
Thanks Whisper for your kind words.
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Well we have started IVF. Perhaps this baby needed to know how much she is wanted.
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violet, all the very best..I will send as much baby dust as i can muster your way..hugs..janine
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Yay! i will send all my blessings and wishes of a new life to you!
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Stay strong Violet :)
I hope your baby finds her way to you soon.
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Keeping my fingers crossed for you Violet.
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and me.... thinking of you violet.
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Sending loads of love and light to you Violet, along with the belief that it is now your time to become a mummy.
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Thank you so much. Maybe it is a little boy. He is wanted very much too.
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blessings to you and your guy
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All the best Violet, I know how hard IVF can be emotionally so if you need to talk I am here to listen, but arrh what am I talking about, you will fly through it, no problem.
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Thank you ce and Tracey. You are both so generous.
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Violet you are always in my prayers my dear. Everything is crossed for you. Your baby could not ask for better parents.
Your love will see this through.
Blessings, Love and Light Always
Merrick :)
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Thank you Merrick, what amazing energy you have.
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Oh Violet thankyou. Your energy radiates your deep compassion for all. Your understanding of others and your non-judgemental attitude truely shine through.
You truely are a beautiful soul.
Merrick ;D
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I really hope you get what you yearn for. The love felt for your own children is an amazing feeling, one that everyone should be aloud to experience.
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Thanks for your kind wishes feuer_engel :) I hope so too. I can only imagine what that feeling is like but it is something I dearly want to know.
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Just wanted to share with you we found out from the IVF clinic today we have eight fertilised eggs! Isn't that incredible, eight potential lives that came from us. It is so healing to know it can happen.
Next step, implanting an embryo!
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Wow Excellent news Violet ;D (8 is such a great number!)
Now just don't forget to take your "vitamins" okay?!!!!
I'm jumping up and down with excitement *giggles* I want to give you big hugs!
I can feel it ALL.
*Kisses*
Merrick ;D
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That's great news Violet!
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i second that!
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oh violet that is wonderful news....huge congrats on your 8 little embies....heres hoping they are sticky ones...janine
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Now just don't forget to take your "vitamins" okay?!!!!
I can feel it ALL.
Thanks Merrick, Gary, ce and lotsa! Yes I hope they are sticky too lotsa.
Merrick you gave me shivers... I 'fessed up to all the (gazillions of) herbs I'm taking on the pre-egg collection form and the nurse admitting me said, "These are all vitamins aren't they?"
I let myself off the regime yesterday, I find it hard work to remember to take them all. I know it's just a little thing but what you said is, for me, so precise.
I believe you feel it all. (Sorry about that! Hehe.)
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It's a very beautiful thing Violet *grins*
I get all warm and fuzzy (literally!) and my eyes are watering! Like a tidal wave of emotion, yes that's it!!
Absolutely Beautiful my dear so no sorry's at all!!
Merrick ;D
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That's wonderful news Violet!
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That is wonderful news Violet! Lots of luck for the next stage :)
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Wwooohhooo!!
I am so happy for you Violet.
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Thanks Christine, Whisper and angelite :) :) :)
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Congratulations Violet, that is fantastic news, wow 8, how many are you going to get put back in? and when are they going to do it? Sorry a little personnal, you don't have to answer me.
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Hehe, though it's tempting to get value for pregnancy, we're just going to have one transferred. (I might need an extra boob if we went for all eight ;)) Apparently the chances of a healthy pregnancy and baby are better with one embryo.
The transfer is tomorrow. Thanks for asking Tracey :D
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Violet best wishes for tomorrow
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Thanks Julie :D
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wishing you all the best violet
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Let us know how you go Violet!
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Thanks lotsa :D
Well the winning embryo is aboard! I am no longer alone in my body! We saw it on a screen before it was transferred, a lovable and much-wanted intricacy of pinpoint cells in a perfect circle. We were very proud when the doctor admired our embryo. Think it looks good now? Wait until it has a few more cells!
Now I am talking to it and asking it to find a nurturing place in my womb to stay and grow, ready to be born into this astounding world. There are about two weeks until my pregnancy test.
It is balm for me to come here and tell you a little about it, thanks for being interested and so supportive.
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fingers x'd all goes well Violet.
Blessed Be!
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Wow Violet. That is so cool. Amazing. Congratulations!!
(Did I mention I'm having a girl? :D)
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I feel really privileged to read about your journey Violet. Again lots of luck :)
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lots of luck violet..this next 2 weeks will seem like the longest time on earth..heres hoping the embie likes what he/she finds in there and decides to hang around for the next 9 months or so....best of luck...janine
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Violet I know you want this so badly and I will keep asking the universe to make it happen for you!
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Fingers, toes, legs, eyes and everything else that will cross is crossed for you!!
Good Luck :D :D
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Thank you ce, hm, Whisper, lotsa, Tracey for your kind wishes. Thanks Christine for your advocacy :) It all makes a difference.
A bit of bad news today. None of the other embryos developed well enough to be frozen. I am gutted. Seven sparks darkened. To me they were all babies.
It is so hard to find out what this means. Is this why I haven't become pregnant yet? Is this normal? Does this have implications for the chances of the little seed in me? I can't find a consistent answer on the net. I was eventually told after unsuccessfully interrogating the scientist who rang with the news, I must talk with my doctor, who is away until Friday. I think I will scream if I get another political answer, "Everyone's different..."
I woke up panicking this morning that during its transfer my embryo had accidentally been flushed down the tube back into its petri dish and washed away to die unnoticed, like garbage. I know I need to be hopeful but mostly what I feel is scared.
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The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory. But at the moment it's just hard, worrying and uncertainty. Don't let your mind look for problems, nor belief unconditionally in any result. Just bide your time. There's a lot of positive coming your way.
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What makes you think that the embryo went back into the petri dish?
If they haven't developed well enough to be frozen it sounds like they might not be viable. So why then did they implant one that might not be viable? Makes you wonder if it is a money thing. You pay per implant right?
Have you seen this site?
http://www.advancedfertility.com/cryo.htm
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Hugs violet, they are your babies, I'd feel gutted too......
I had a friend who had 7 embies make it to freezing but none survived the thaw, not quite the same, but I guess it does happen. Doesnt mean it will happen again though necessarily. ...and go and have the chat to the doctor, if he is worth his weight in (you radiate sunshine and light)ypoop he will answer you honestly and wont fob you off.
Hold onto that hope, your little embie inside is in the best spot it can be right now..you are doing a great job...janine
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Gary, you're brilliant at hitting the spot with the perfect words. Thank you. If you get tired of being a writer you could create a lot of healing being a counsellor.
Christine, thanks for your caring questions. The dish the embryo comes from is onscreen throughout the transfer. When the transfer is finished the tube is flushed into the dish to make sure the embryo has been ejected into the uterus. I could see bubbles in the dish onscreen, the scientist called "Clear!" to the doctor doing the transfer and then suddenly I saw a tiny speck at the rim, whirling away as the dish was removed. At the time it didn't properly register. There was so much to take in. Then last night and this morning I started wondering what the speck was. It is too late to prevent if that is what happened and if not, my worrying about it won't help the embryo's chances. Yet another time when I long for a mute button for my brain.
The scientist I spoke to reassured me the embryo implanted was graded 'A'. (There is an explanation of the grading system at the site you mentioned Christine--thanks for that, I had visited it before but not the page you posted. I'd like to be a mother wallaby.) 'A' is good. So that is comforting. I just don't know whether it means anything that all the other embryos did not reach this stage of development.
With what I once thought was my intuition--and now appears to be the influence of fertility drugs--flaring alternately with hope and despair I just want to appease my anxiety with information.
Janine, thanks, I have left a message for the doctor and I take your warm encouragement to heart.
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Violet you have spent so much time, money and most importantly emotion on this that you are of course going to be worried about absolutely everything, and just because the others weren't viable doesn't mean that this one isn't.
I know that you are worried about the speck that you saw but it could have just been a little bit of dried blood, when you speak to your dr tell him about it and I am sure that he will have an acceptable answer for you.
Believe me I know what it is like to go through IVF, you put your whole heart and soul into trying to create a little one and you have every right to be as worried as you are.
Please remember to look after yourself, it is the best for both you and your little one and if you need to talk some more, bring it on!!
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Thanks Tracey :) Wise and kind words.
Sadly my little seed did not stay. I feel a bit disconnected. But when I think of my husband not being a father I can't bear it that so much love and goodness would never be given like that and I want to try again.
I wish I could know why it didn't work. Can anyone tell me?
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hugs violet....
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Violet sadly IVF is not 100% guaranteed. But then nor is a naturally concieved embryo. I am so sorry.
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Yes, we had a 40% chance with IVF--so a good chance but not guaranteed. It is just heartbreaking not knowing why we have been unable to conceive naturally or otherwise. Every test says we are completely healthy and fertile. Obviously there is something that can't be identified yet by medical science. I feel so helpless not knowing if there is anything I can do to overcome it. Or if there is something I am doing that is causing the problem.
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Violet there is nothing you are doing/not doing to cause inability to concieve. Believe me after 4 miscarriages I have done my head in with these thoughts. They will get you no-where. You need to get off that train my friend before it crashes.
What I can tell you is that it is important that YOU be whole, both in mind and body, to concieve and thinking that it is YOUR fault doesn't allow you to be healthy. It puts you on a needless guilt trip.
What I will add, and I KNOW how hard it is to do, was that at the time I thought I would just give up trying. I reconciled myself to not falling pregnant and was at peace with that decision, THAT was when I concieved and carried to term.
Apart from the miscarriages I had terrible trouble falling pregnant.
This may seem like cold comfort but I just can't sit back and let you do the "is it my fault" thing.
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Violet, I am so sorry, it is not yours or anyone elses fault that this happened, it is unfortunately just one of those horrible horrible things that happen and quite often there is no answer.
Believe me, I questioned everything when I misscarried at 15 weeks, just started to get comfortable with it all and believe that yes it was finally actually going to happen when i misscarried, they did all the genetic testing on my little angel but unfortunately they could not find any reason why it happened, sometimes it just happens.
I know that this is of no comfort to you but please believe that we are all here for you, pour your heart out and remember the precious moments that you had with your little one.
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Hi Violet, if I was there, I would give you a big hug and make you a cup of tea.
Be gentle with yourself.
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I have lost 3 babies, its hard, but try not to beat yourself up. your still young, time is on your side. My blessings to you both.
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Conception is a miracle. Birth is a miracle. Only death is a predictable and non-miraculous event.
But, although I am not one to prophesize, I do think you will get there. It just needs to be the right spirit at the right time.
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My cousin and her hubby tried for 15 years, nothing except a string of phantom pregnancies to show for it. They were on an adoption list and finally they picked up their new, month old adopted son. when they got him home they received the news that her last 'phantom' was actually misdiagnosed and was the real deal. 4 months later she gave birth to a boy. So she had two babies. About 18 months later she had a girl, and then no more. She never used any form of birth control. She was obviously meant to have her adopted son and her natural 2 had to wait till his arrival before they could make theirs! That's my take on it anyways!
The time may not yet be right!
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Have you thought of adoption Violet?
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Big hugs and tears for you and your husband Violet.........please don't give up.
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I am so sorry Violet. I am sure that the hormones must be making it even more difficult to deal with the loss. I am sure your child will come to you some day. hugs
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I feel really lucky to be a part of this community. Thank you Christine for caring enough to be so honest--what a gift. Thank you Tracey, Julie, ce, Gary, angelite and Whisper for sharing your thoughts and stories. Your contributions give me healing and strength.
I have not discounted adoption but at this stage I would be somewhat uncomfortable with 'my' child having another set of parents who might come into her life. I would find it hard to share a relationship I would feel so intensely with strangers I did not choose.
Rather than adoption I have considered fostering. I dearly want to give to children and I think I could make a difference in a fostering situation.
Meanwhile my husband and I are closer than we have ever been. This experience has deepened our already immeasurable connection. I feel optimistic about our next IVF cycle.
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I feel optimistic about our next IVF cycle.
I am so glad you are not giving up and feel confident it will happen for you when the time is right. My thoughts are with you.
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Hi Violet
I think you would be exceptional as a foster mother. Any child would be lucky and blessed to be placed with you. You would have an enormous amount to offer and I see that you would make real change in these kids lives. I would encourage you to go for it while you wait for your little one to join you.
Christine